I feel like I’m pretty good at planning a wedding! HaHa. So far so good, anyway. We’ve got all of the big stuff other than… I guess just decorations! We know what we want to do, we just haven’t purchased everything we need yet. But that’s something we do still have time for.
It really is crazy to think about all of the time, effort, and cash that goes into planning a wedding. It’s one day! Granted, it’s a very important day… but it’s still just a day. I feel like quite often people worry more about having this big, fabulous wedding than making sure they’ll have a long, fabulous marriage. All of those shows on television where the flowers alone cost $100,000… or the bride has a $40,000 custom-made wedding gown… and then barely a year later they’re already divorced… what a waste.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m having TONS of fun planning the wedding… and I’m very very excited for the celebration and to just have fun with everyone… but I’m not so concerned with the party that I forgot what I’m really excited for… that I get to spend the rest of my life with a fantastic man (the best, in my book) who I love to pieces! In this day and age of frequent divorce you kind of don’t want to jinx yourself by saying that you’ll be together forever without a doubt… which is really sad, but it’s true. But I just can’t help but to feel like we’ve got the magic formula. I guess I’m a little bit biased, huh? 
I feel like so often, people are spoiled… or told too often that they should be happy all the time… so when they come upon a bump in the road in the marriage… or they’re having one of those periods of less-than-enthusiam for their significant other they act impulsively thinking, “This is no fun!” Which granted, we all deserve to be happy… if you’re legit miserable all the time in your marriage & can’t stand the sight of your husband/wife, you should probably end the marriage… but it seems to me that people take the easy way out. They get to that point where you realize that the other person isn’t perfect, not at all, and they want perfection. So they end the relationship thinking they will find perfection in someone else… they meet someone new, get all excited, probably marry them impulsively too… and then realize that just like the last person, they aren’t perfect. And so often it seems that people just don’t want to put the effort forth. Or maybe just one person tries… jumping through hoops to fix the problem… but if only one person is doing it, it’s basically pointless.
I’m not saying I would never get a divorce… I’m definitely not opposed to divorce being an option. Both of my parents went through divorces, and they both had good reason to. Because if you try, and it’s just not working out… or if you’re in an abusive relationship… or if something changes the dynamic of the relationship and you just can’t get it back to being right… or if maybe you were a bit too young/immature & got married too early… you shouldn’t have to be stuck there for the rest of your life. I’m just saying that it seems that a lot of people take the easy way out… or they just don’t take love, marriage & that kind of a relationship very seriously.
I suppose I simply feel very lucky. Kevin and I both have our faults individually, and we certainly have our faults as a couple… but at the base of our relationship is intense love, respect & admiration and a willingness, determination even, to put the required time and effort into the relationship.
