daily life

Dear Vegetarians & Vegans:

I’d like to preface this post by saying that I have been vegan (for a brief time) before, and I lean more toward being vegetarian than being a heavy meat-eater. Also, I give “kudos” to anyone who IS strictly vegetarian or vegan–it takes some dedication and sometimes willpower, so good for you. 🙂 And it’s really ridiculous that I need to give this disclaimer, but I am 100% NOT saying that every single vegetarian or vegan is like this.

That being said, after working for a company that sells food but does not currently have vegetarian or vegan options, I have to say that generally speaking, vegetarians/vegans seem to be quite condescending and holier-than-thou!

Nobody is trying to force you to eat meat. So if you see a company that does not have vegetarian options, what good do you think it will really do to publicly berate them or attack other people commenting positively on their page? Just because they might have a different definition of the word “healthy!”

Trying to bully people into adopting your lifestyle or diet is not going to make people want to do so! Why not approach it with understanding, kindness, and maybe a bit of polite knowledge? Listen, I get that you just want to save all the animals and better the planet and that your intention is to “do good.” But yelling at someone or chastising a company isn’t a very productive way of going about it. You end up looking like a petulant child stomping their foot on the ground with their bottom lip sticking out, and very few people will care to heed your advice, as well-meaning as it may be.

Out of the hundreds of comments we get about this, literally only one or two that I can recall were calm and/or informative. “Oh, I’m vegetarian, so it’s not for me. You guys should read this article, it gives a really good picture of why vegetarianism is a good health choice.”

At the very least, they’re almost always condescending. “Oh you don’t have vegetarian options? So you’re contributing to the slaughter of animals? That’s cute. No thanks.”

The large majority are aggressive, attacking, and sometimes downright vulgar. “ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! YOU’RE SAYING THAT EATING DEAD F—ING ANIMAL CARCASS IS HEALTHY?! GET A GRIP YOU IDIOTS!”

What’s that saying? You attract more bees with honey than vinegar? Well, I personally think it’s quite true. Passion for a cause is certainly admirable, until that passion becomes aggression, then it’s mostly just off-putting and probably is just going to hurt your cause.

That’s all she wrote. (For now!)



No “What Ifs”

You have to give people the opportunity to surprise you sometimes. They might disappoint you. It might blow up in your face. But if you just assume that that’s what will happen you’ll never even give them the chance!

If you want to know how someone feels about you… don’t wait! Just tell them how you feel & see where it goes.

I don’t know. I just feel like the risk is worth it. :))) I hate looking back on situations wondering, “What would have happened…” So I just choose to find out what will happen. Sometimes it sucks when someone doesn’t feel the same in return… but that’s life, right? You can’t always get what you want, but why not at least try?

Just my random thoughts of the day due to a conversation with a good friend. ❤